Exhibitionism: Baring All to Benefit All

Written by Tara Tainton

Sunday, 05 June 2005 00:00

I can't help but think that if we're the sexually aware and open kind, there's a bit of exhibitionism in each of us. Just take a look at the women strutting down the sidewalks in high heels and restrictive panty hose. They're not worn for our comfort! And watch the guys strutting by in those jeans cut to a specific fit or a t-shirt one size too small. Whether it's our covered bodies or bare skin, we do love to show it all off.Of course, there are many levels of exhibitionism as with any activity, habit, or interest. We might just like to sport attractive clothing or sport a bit of cleavage or we delight in public displays of affection with our sweeties, pushing our man up against a wall on a public street for a grope, or even copping a feel of his package while we're casually walking through the Wal-Mart parking lot. And sometimes, we like to indulge in outdoor sex, sex on display at a swingers' club, or a nice orgy.

The truth is, we get off a little bit by showing off. We get a little thrill knowing that we're thrilling others and offering visual delights for their eyes. The more unknown the watchers are, the more titillating the thrill of putting on a show. Call it a selfish act or the most generous and giving kind. Either way, it benefits all of us. We're visually stimulated, and the more there is to watch, the better our sexual lives.

Let's take a deeper look at exhibitionism. "Many mild and considered acceptable forms of exhibitionism are considered normal in our culture. Children often have a natural curiosity about their genitals and the genitals of others. Young children may like to try to shock adults or other children by showing their genitals or underwear. This is typically a passing phase and only calls for professional treatment if it persists. Similarly, adolescents have been expressing disapproval through "mooning" for years. Wearing suggestive clothing or strip teasing for a significant other are common activities" ("Exhibitionism," PsychNet-UK).

A Guide for Females ("Basic Exhibitionism" by Lily Hensen)

Conveniently enough, Lily's tips are a great companion piece to my earlier entry, "Ode to Nipples." Lilly's recommendations are sure to get the guys fired up and questioning which of the ladies are actually putting on a show for them. "The first rule of clothes is: no bra. In the most basic forms of exhibitionism you're just showing people your nipples through your shirt. As you move up, you show them the naked nipple, then other parts. Bras are never useful, unless that's what you want to show people. Showing your nipples through your shirt can be obvious, or an art form. The key is to make the viewer question whether you're doing it on purpose, or whether what they see is a total fluke.

Wear these clothes to the supermarket, or the mall, somewhere where there's a lot of strangers walking around in close quarters; and wait for the double-takes. It's so much fun. I was standing in the middle of the freezer section of our local grocery store, pausing over the pizzas, when I noticed a guy staring at my chest over the freezer. I was wearing just a faded white halter top, my nipples were pretty visible already to anyone who dared to look, but in the cold air of the freezer my nipples had stiffened to attention and glancing down I was aware they stood out against the material of my shirt. I hung out by the pizza another two to three minutes bending and twisting as I examined all the brands before the guy's wife or girlfriend showed up to drag him away. I gave her a wink as she glared at me. She smiled back and shook her head.

The next way to expose yourself using just your clothes is clothing that remains just loose enough, or moves just enough now and then to give the viewer an unobstructed line of sight. This is trickier, but far more rewarding. Watching some guy walking around me, pretending to do something else, just to try and confirm to himself he saw what he did makes me hot every time. The easiest tool for this is just leaving a loose button-up shirt open to a level slightly below your nipples. Be sure to lean over a lot and turn almost sideways whenever someone comes into range. A slight variation of this is to use a see-through shirt and an open jacket. The advantage with this is that you can leave the jacket open all the way, increasing the likelihood that you can "accidentally" expose yourself at just the right time."

More Exhibitionism Info

The Rascal's Golden Rules for Exhibitionism (also provides the Beginner's Guide to Exhibitionism)

These are just our rules. I don't expect anyone else to follow them, and I'm not saying that you should.

Check out the location before you start.
Plan an escape route or explanation if the worst happens.
Remember that other people may not like it, so be respectful of them
Remember that you can get away with more than you think
Have something available for cover up. (Keep a pocket mac in your back pocket, but don't let her know that).
Go at a pace which is comfortable for both of you. A daring exhibitionist is a confident exhibitionist. This only comes as a result of experience, so don't rush it.
Spend longer looking around and less looking at her, just so that you can see if someone is coming.
Always be on the lookout for good sites
Enjoy it!
Tell me where you're going to be, so I can come along and watch!