Cougars Living Fast and Dying Younger

Cougars: Living Fast and Dying Younger

Written by Tara Tainton

Saturday, 15 May 2010 18:34

Cougars... their reputation and label have spread worldwide in the last decade. Celebrity women dating younger men in the public eye made it more widely accepted for an older woman to date younger men, and women themselves have been able to reaffirm for themselves that sex appeal and drive do not dissipate with age. Soon, I might find myself in that very same category.

I referred to an expert for the official word on when a woman falls into the category of "cougar." According to my good friend and erotica writer and editor, Jolie du Pre, a cougar is 40 years or older. I'm not there yet. Nor have I dipped into the pool of younger men much at all. An ex was 6 months younger, which hardly counts, and there was a fling with a 10-years-younger suitor that hardly lasted more than a couple tousles of the bed sheets. Well, there was that unexpected thrill ride with a friend 5 years younger a couple weeks ago... Meanwhile, my age puts me in some weird in-between zone... not quite cougar material and well out of that "hot, young, nubile piece of ass" phase.

Maybe I should be the spokesperson for and take on publicizing a sexy little category especially for us still-hot-to-trot 30-something women? Or maybe not. According to a recent study, life for cougar women my not be all it's cracked up to be.

cougar female attacking younger man pulling on his suit and tie sitting on top of him giving him a lap dance

The details of the study are unknown, but the harsh supposed "facts" revealed by my favorite local t.v. news team are saddening. Apparently, the findings are that women who date men 7 to 9 years younger than themselves are 20% more likely to die younger... than they would otherwise, I guess. And those cougars venturing to take on lovers 15 or more years younger increase their personal odds of living a shorter life by as much as 30%. The theory is that dating a younger man comes with a lot of added (and deadly?) stress.

As for me and my singledom, I"m just now ready to take full advantage of, I'm not easily drawn to the idea of dating younger. I can't imagine a much younger man having that much in common with me or being able to pique my mental interest as needed to get all my blood rushing. There's something eternally appealing about someone with a lot of life experiences - harsh, thrilling, or otherwise - beneath his belt... and a more experienced cock below the belt is definitely a major draw as well.

Yet, I'm not one to make generalizations or judgments, only to guess and ponder. I need to dip my bare, wriggling toes in that pond of younger men before I can determine if it has something to offer me. After all, I've never been a fan of relationships that come with added stress... I'll be quick to kick those needy little boys to the door.

Well traveled younger men with goals and dreams and direction... (and a wide range of sexual experience and desire to continue to explore that wide world of sex), be sure to stand up straight, give a holler, and grab my attention. I'll give you a spin.